Connection Gems

The Connection Gem of the week applies Mindful Compassionate Dialogue to situations in daily life and offers clarity and practical skills. You can find an archive of Connection Gems using the list or search engine below.

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Practice Appreciation: Skill 2: Express What's Working

Each MCD Relationship Competency identifies 6 Skills, along with specific practices for learning each.

For more context, see Skill 1: Express the definition and purpose of appreciation.

Skill 2: Express what’s working

Creating the habit of noticing what’s working is essential to living a connected and sacred life. This week use the format below to practice noticing what’s working at least once every day until the next Connection Gem arrives. 

PRACTICE:

Observation: What exactly did the other person do or say that met needs for you?

EXAMPLE: My spouse brought me breakfast in bed this morning.

Thought: What interpretation or meaning do you make of the other person’s behavior?

EXAMPLE: They love me and know what’s nourishing for me.

Feelings: What feelings came up for you when your needs were met? Use the feelings list, try to use new vocabulary.

EXAMPLE:  Content, pleased, touched

Needs: What needs were met?  Use the needs list.

EXAMPLE: Support, love, care

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